hellishhurricane replied to your photo“hey guys it’s my third tattoo! wooooo!!!”
Any story behind it, or i a just because tattoo? It’s very pretty.
Thank you!!! :D The flowers are cherry blossoms and are sort of a promise to go to Japan for my next big trip after NY (it’s permanently on my body now! I have to go!), and the letter is for my friend Shea (who is also supposed to come with me to Japan!).
What has really sucked the past 6 years is commuting at least 2.5 hours every time I have to go into work for the State. I finally rectified that by moving to Sacramento. It’s my first apartment that I’ve gotten all by myself (I’ve always had someone living with me), which I realize is kinda ridiculous, being as old as I am. But it’s still very exciting, so I thought I’d share.
Here’s the living room:
The breakfast nook:
And the bedroom:
I’ll be sure to post more pics once I get all my stuff arranged this weekend. :)
Someone just called us, trying to run a scam on my family. They said something was wrong with our Windows and we were unwittingly sending out information and we needed to talk to them to try to fix it.
They didn’t ask for anyone in particular, didn’t try to get a name, didn’t specify a copy of Windows or a registered user, they were just really eager to get someone to a computer to get them to do something. We didn’t do what they asked, and my boyfriend, after declining several times to access his computer, took down a number to call them back. It turns out it was for someplace in India, though I have no way to confirm that this was where the call actually came from.
I know most tumblr users are too savvy to fall for this, but thought I’d send out an alert anyway.
So, I’ve been really disconnected from the Mass Effect fandom for a long time. I already made a post detailing my reasons why for that, but when I heard about this new Citadel DLC, my interest was piqued. Getting to reconnect with old friends? Having parties in your swanky Citadel apartment? Well, damn, sounds like fun! Even more than that, the brief, shining moment that I had hope Thane’s storyline might be resolved in a more satisfying way had me poking around for more information.
Then, of course, more information came, and I won’t go into specifics about my thoughts on that because not only are they boring but that also isn’t the point of this piece.
The point of this piece, rather, is the reaction said information got. And suddenly I remembered why, all over again, I stopped interacting with people in this fandom.
To put it quite simply: they’re all ridiculous.
Now, I don’t mean to lump everyone together, and I’m not. I’m talking about, specifically, the froth I saw in the Thane tag as I was innocently looking for more information, the hatred and the vitriol and the blatant disregard for anything concerning truth and decent analysis. What is it about fandom that turns everyone into a polarized extremist? I am being generous and assuming that they’re not like that in real life about other situations, but maybe I am overestimating them.
First, of course, we have the people who feel, for some reason, they need to go into the Thane tag and deliberately poke at others, try to get angry reactions. They’re the ones who treat an issue that people obviously feel passionate about with deliberate and provoking nonchalance or outright antagonistic condescension The ones who seem to get off on making others angry. The ones who laugh when people do so. And I can’t help but think: do you honestly have nothing better to do? What is your design in this? Do you just want to spread bad feelings? Is this what you do when you interact with people in real life? Shame on you.
Secondly, we have people who seem to think that their experiences, their own personal life experiences, are somehow more valid than everyone else’s and that their interpretation should be universally accepted across the board. These are the people who are arrogant enough to look at their own tiny microcosm of a life and believe that because they have felt these things, they have thought these things, they have experienced these things, that all must do the same, and if not? Well, if not, it doesn’t matter. Not valid. Not important. I always found this to be especially interesting in a game that prided itself on choice and the ability to reflect whatever sort of life experience you wanted in it. And again, I wonder, is this how you interact with people in real life? Do you believe that the way you live and your values are the only ones that are correct? The assumption in this, of course, is that you are infallible, and it is an assumption that is simply not true.
And finally (though there are more I’d like to go into, I am narrowing it to these three that were especially irritating) are those who seem to be trying to construct a genuine argument, with evidence and an attempt at analysis. Their design, I think, is perhaps a bit more pure: they are actually trying to engage in dialogue (though again, perhaps I am being too generous), and trying to change minds. However, in doing so, they cherry pick evidence, they display biases that destroy credibility, they fail. It is something that I constantly see in my students: they try to make an argument work, and in order to do so, they ignore the complexity of the issue. They take something intricate, with many different facets, and because they want something to fit (or perhaps they are simply lazy), they simplify it so that it does.
Except it doesn’t.
It doesn’t work when I am reading it and I’m thinking of a dozen different ways in which said argument can be countered, when I’m thinking of canon evidence that explicitly contradicts and unravels your argument, when I’m seeing the pale, thin connections you’re making and dismissing them as insubstantial, when you often sacrifice accuracy to make your point. If your design is to persuade, then the argument you construct in this manner does not work. And, I know for a fact that such people are like this in real life: I grade these papers (papers that get very poor grades, I might add). I don’t need to agree with you in order for you to have an air-tight argument. In matters that are fluid and grey, often I will ultimately disagree but appreciate that you have a good argument (and give you a good grade reflecting your rhetorical skills). But people who are guilty of the above—the cherry picking, the flimsy connections, the obvious biases and poor analysis—do not persuade, they are not effective, they are wasting their time and ultimately their readers’ time, for the only people who agree with them are people who already do, and that’s not the point of persuasion at all.
So, I’m left with an impression of a fandom that, quite frankly, doesn’t know how to interact with people at all. They are deliberately provoking. They are shallow. They lack the ability to logically and coherently develop an argument. They are concerned, not with engaging in dialogue, but merely with making noise. And this, I feel, is indicative of the way they are in real life. We have only to watch the news, read the paper,look outside, to see how people are exactly like this. And it saddens me. It depresses me that the people I see making posts about a video game are the same people with the same attitudes that comment on and perhaps have a hand in making public policy, in changing the world around us.
What to do, then? Honestly, I’m not sure. I want this essay to persuade people, to make them think about their actions. I hope that it does, though I am almost certain it won’t. But if we want to engage in dialogue, if we want to be good people, then we need to stop behaving like this. We need to treat others with respect. We need to stop being so damn embarrassing. That’s what it is, honestly. Embarrassing. I am embarrassed, often, being associated with this fandom. I really wish that wasn’t the case. I’ve met a lot of wonderful people through here, and I had some really fun times. It’s sad to see all that soured by those that I have described above. They make all of us look ridiculous.
So, I will do my part in my classroom trying to teach these things. You can do your part by trying to be more aware of how you present yourself, your argument. Think about it from different angles, be concerned with accuracy and logic. Be respectful and think about the way you treat others. This should all just be common sense. But sometimes, I guess, we need reminders.